Month: October 2014

Afraid of the dark?

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Some time ago, a friend asked me a pretty simple question(or so it seemed). The question is this “who is more foolish, a man who is afraid of the light or a child who is afraid of the dark?” I didn’t know what to say, so, I gave him one of my ‘get out of trouble’ answers- it depends. He caught me and asked again ‘depends on what?’ Trust me, I was caught off guard.

Then, I started thinking about it  and guess what, I came up with more questions than I did answers. It maybe kinda normal for a child to be afraid of the dark; I was afraid of the dark at some point in my life though I had pretty baseless reasons. The question now is why a full grown man or anyone for that matter will be afraid of the light. I came up with a couple of probable answers, the most reasonable one is this; anyone who is afraid of the light definitely has something to hide.

But then again, don’t we all have things we’d rather not talk about, if we do, does that make them secrets and if they are secrets, are we then all afraid of the light?  After all my pondering, I could not help but think that I was right aftreall and it all depends on WHY we are afraid of WHAT.





We’ve all been there

I know how it feels when you are put down by someone you least expect, I’ve been there. I know how bad you feel when the only thing you can think about is how you’re not good enough, how you’ll always play second fiddle or no fiddle at all. At one time or the other, we’ve all had feelings of insecurity. For some, its more than a feeling, when you hear someone say the same thing to you or about you for a while, you more often than not start to believe it and live those words that are being said to you.

The good news is this you can get out of that trap. No matter how long you’ve been hearing the words, living the life or having those feelings. Those words have nothing in common with who you really are. When someone says words to you that make you feel insecure, make up your mind not to listen to them. When you are put down, make a decision to bring yourself back up. No one will do that for you and you can’t get back up by mistake, the earlier you realize that the better for you.

Surround yourself with the right people. Run away from those who make you feel or tell you that you’re not good enough. Change your friends if need be. Move away from insecure people, they will only pull you down with them. If you can’t help yourself, you can’t help them. Make conscious efforts to have positive thoughts about yourself. Always keep it in mind that if you don’t love or see anything good about you then you can’t love others or see the best in them.